There are usually many steps to climb before reaching one’s goals.
All these steps are filled with a range of emotions. One can sporadically burst into tears or laughter at each location due to the intensity of emotions. These steps can be classified into four categories, namely DENIAL, BARGAINING, TESTING, and ACCEPTANCE (DBTA).
At the denial stage, we generally tell ourselves that whatever we are trying to accomplish cannot be done. We frequently use phrases like “I can’t do it,” “I am not good enough,” “I am not smart enough,” “I won’t do it,” “It makes no sense,” “It is too difficult.” At the stage, our eyes are covered whether by blindfold or scales, which needs to be removed so that we can see clearly. The truth of the matter is that all we need to do is exert a little effort and we will see the results we desire.
The second stage is the bargaining phase. We admit to ourselves that we want to have what we desire and seek advice on how to accomplish our goals. We inquire how to do it and gather as much information as possible. It is at this stage that we discover various strategies and become empowered to devise methods of accomplishing our goals. Plans A, B and C is developed at this level.
Thirdly, is the testing phase. This step is filled with trial, errors, and disappointments. It is at this stage that our language changes from “I will try” to “I can” and then ultimately to “I will do it.” This is the final step before accomplishment.
Finally is the acceptance level. This is the stage that we realize that what we once thought was impossible is now very possible. At this point, we can sing and dance to “Yes, I did it.” This stage is where we gain the confidence needed to be a role model to others. We become solidified in our thoughts that if we are able to do then someone else can also and we become inspired to help those who are still at the base of the staircase.
The key thing to remember while at any level is that you can do all things through God as He is the One that gives strength. Also, He is the one that gives knowledge and wisdom. Everything we need can be found Him. Never forget that when things seem impossible for you that nothing is impossible with God. At your lowest point, you are positioned for higher and greater things. The DBTA’s are really just steps to climb (though steep they may seem) to accomplish your goals and see the manifestation of the desires of your heart.
3/1/17 Dr.R.A.
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